In conversations with managers, I often hear people say something like “Well, I can’t help myself, that’s who I am, I’m” an engineer / a finance person / a lawyer, etc.
I share Stephen Fry’s consideration in The Guardian:
“We are not nouns, we are verbs.
I am not a thing – an actor, a writer – I am a person who does things – I write, I act – and I never know what I am going to do next.
I think you can be imprisoned if you think of yourself as a noun.”
John Berryman’s advice to writers:
I would recommend the cultivation of extreme indifference to both praise and blame because praise will lead you to vanity, and blame will lead you to self-pity, and both are bad for writers.
Vanity and self-pity are bad for any professional.
h/t to Maria Popova
You probably do not understand yourself as well as you think you do.
- Your perspective on yourself is distorted,
- Your motives are often a complete mystery to you,
- Outward appearances tell people a lot about you,
- Gaining some distance can help you know yourself better,
- We too often think we are better at something than we are,
- People who tear themselves down experience setbacks more frequently,
- You deceive yourself without realizing it,
- The “true self” is good for you,
- Insecure people tend to behave more morally,
- If you think of yourself as flexible, you will do much better.
Indra Nooyi, former CEO of PepsiCo, in the New York Times:
The issue is not women in the C-suite, it’s a leaky pipeline. The pipeline is leaking at the early stages. Because we get enough women coming into the work force in various stages. But by the time they get to Level 2 and Level 3, they just drop out of the work force for several reasons.
One that can be addressed quickly is this tremendous unconscious bias. On top of that, the time that they get to Level 2 in a company is when they will have families, and many companies are not mandated to give parental leave. People just drop out of the work force, and then we wonder why they don’t go up to the top. We can ill afford to be a country where women drop out of the work force.